How Long Should I Stay in Therapy?
Most people wait longer than they should to get into therapy. Between the stigmas, the overwhelming feelings, and the logistical constraints, it’s easy to understand why people hesitate. And it’s probably true that a good portion of people leave therapy before they...
I’m Breaking Up with Food
Issues with food are kind of like issues with sex. They are both necessary for human life, but they can get you in a lot of trouble. My client who struggled with pornography and sexual acting out told me his shame was greater than mine because everyone knows that...
More Hope for More People
I didn’t really know what I was missing for the first several years that podcasts were in existence. In fact, I really can’t recall how I started listening, but I believe it was in 2017. I had a toddler at that time, and I mostly listened to mom podcasts. Before long,...
Sometimes God Surprises You
“Time heals all wounds.” We know it’s a cliche, and we mostly think it has some truth (but not very much). It can be offensive to say it to someone in deep pain. And it implies that the wounded person does not have to do anything while waiting for the healing to come....
Moms Who Cry: Sensitivity or Emotional Manipulation? Pt.2
Honestly, I didn’t realize when I started this two part series about moms and emotions that it would be released the week before and after Mother’s Day! But here we are, I guess it’s appropriate timing. Many of us want to celebrate the wonderful older women in our...
Moms Who Cry: Sensitivity or Emotional Manipulation? Pt.1
I’m going to start out by saying, “Mom, I am not talking to you or about you.” I just need to make that disclaimer. You can imagine having a therapist in the family makes people a little edgy sometimes. But the truth is, I’m not analyzing my loved ones or trying to...
Sixes: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
Well, it’s the last entry in our series about different Enneagram types in therapy. Today, finally, we get to talk about Type 6. And Sixes do go to therapy, so there is lots to talk about. Over the past few weeks, we’ve seen that there is a little different nuance and...
Fives: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
Chances are, if you’re an Enneagram Five, you haven’t really considered therapy as a viable option for you. And if you’re a therapist reading this, you probably don’t have a lot of experience with treating Fives. There are some clear reasons for this. Today I’ll show...
Fours: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
It’s possible that there are more Enneagram Fours in therapy than other numbers. I think this is because they actually like talking about feelings, having feelings, and agonizing over feelings. Whereas other personality types begrudgingly talk about feelings in...
Threes: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
When it comes to talking about Enneagram Threes, you’re about to get a double whammy. Not only do I work with Threes in therapy, I am a Three in therapy myself! There are some specific considerations that apply to Christians who are Threes, and today we will talk...
Twos: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
Enneagram Twos, let me take care of you for a moment. I know it will be uncomfortable. This conversation about Christian Twos in therapy will acknowledge you in all the love and service that you pour out. I had a special conversation with a friend to help me write...
Ones: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
I want to do this really well, because that would be important to an Enneagram One. Christians who seek out therapy and identify as Ones are balancing great internal and external pressure. Through therapy and a true understanding of the position we have in Christ,...
Nines: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
It’s true that quite a few Nines can be found in therapy offices (or telehealth screens) across the country. Today we’re going to look at what Nines are looking for when they seek out therapy. We’ll explore how their strengths and weaknesses help them grow or hinder...
Eights: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
The Enneagram Sevens got to go first in this series, so now let’s turn to the Eights! In the first post of this series, I shared some of my thoughts about Christians and the Enneagram. Today we’re going to look at some of the specific strengths and weaknesses of...
Sevens: Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
Most Enneagram writings don’t start with Type 7. After talking to a Seven friend, I think they probably can’t wait! Maybe that’s why other authors leave Sevens for last, so that they will have to read the whole thing. In last week’s post, I shared some of my thoughts...
Christians, Therapy, and the Enneagram
When some Christians see the 9-point diagram that describes the Enneagram personality typing system, they feel suspicious that they are looking at a demonic or anarchical symbol. You can definitely find articles on the internet that describe it that way. You will also...
My Personal Experience with Medication
Therapy is one of the many tools in the arsenal we have to fight depression, anxiety, and other psychological disorders. If you’ve followed along with me for any time, you may have seen that it isn’t the first line of defense. I believe in creating a personal...
A Christian Therapist’s View on Medication
Why does taking medication for mental health issues seem to ruffle Christian feathers more than any other kind of pharmaceutical intervention? Are there moral or ethical implications for Christians who choose to use psychotropic (mental health meds) medications? Today...